Soooo, I still have to write my letter to myself, I'm aware! My brother-in-law had a fantastic one, in which he also wrote a letter from his 17-year-old self to his current self (and apparently he said "dude" a lot when he was 17!).
Well, yesterday was St. Patty's Day! I think at about 2:30 I told my friend that I might just stay at home with my green food coloring and beer and enjoy it myself because I was getting frustrated just going back and forth with plans and work was insane!
I mean, really? Did I honestly think that would happen? Not at all-so I ended up hanging out with two of my loyal blog-readers, Brittany and Kyle!
So an Irish Pub on St. Patty's Day, obviously insanity right? Yeah, took a while to get a drink...so you'd get two or three at once. Good times. Well at the end of the evening, I'm closing my tab (okay, TRYING to close my tab, it worked after 30 minutes) some guy was standing at the bar next to me and told me to watch his seat. I told him I'd just be closing my tab, and he said "Aw, I was hoping you'd be here when I got back" and I just kind of smiled. "No, seriously" he says, "You're the most beautiful woman in the bar". I laughed "Exactly how many car bombs have you done tonight?" He taps me on the shoulder and looks at me and says "I never lie". Then walks off. Sadly, I was still standing there when he got back. "You think too much" he said when he sits down. "Pardon?" I said. "You think too much. You need to just take a compliment and not think about it or question the meaning." So I'm like, yeah, okay. Got my tab, and walked out with my friend.
Now, to be told once that I think too much by a stranger is one thing. But then my friend and I were walking in the parking lot talking about random stuff and I just kept being like "I'm sorry, I know I sound like x" or "I know you're thinking x" and he just looks at me and said "Mary, you are analyzing too much. Don't over-think it."
Hmmm...
So then on top of that, I had the absolute most bizarre dream in which one of my girls and I were out at a bar and next thing we knew it was 6am, so some other girls were like "Just stay out and drink a mimosa or bloody mary with us" so we're like, okay. And the bartender was like, "I have something even better that's the new craze for the early morning drink" and hands us this like, clearish drink in a martini glass that looks like a snowcone. The bartender tells us it's called an "Analyzer", it's vanilla dippin dots (can you tell I'm sweet deprived?) blended with vodka and ice chips. How freaking bizarre is that? I invented a drink in my sleep, and it deals with me thinking too much. Not to mention one of the other girls in the dream put a jalapeno in hers...what?
So now I'm writing to analyze about how I over-analyze things. My dad has recently told me that I have excellent intuitions and that my instincts are usually right on.
Question: So how is it at times they are so way off?
Answer: Because they aren't gut feelings-they are usually in situations where I put thoughts in other peoples heads. Now I might be able to get a sense of a persons character, but really, I'm not psychic-I don't have ESPN! (hee hee)
Somebody changes plans on me, it means they don't want to hang out. Somebody forgets my birthday, it means they really could care less. Somebody suddenly changes their mind about a situation 100%, it means their original thinking or original plans fell through. And man oh man do I have this over-analyzing thing bad with guys...let's not even get into the crazy crap that goes through my head if he doesn't behave according to the way he should in my head! (Why is it I'd have any type of realistic expectation for this? Cause it's gone soooo well in the past?)
I'd love to say I'm not going to over-analzye things, but I will definitely have more patience or ask for more input when I'm feeling slighted in a situation. I think this problem definitely occurs more for the female readers, but any opinions are welcome! I just know that I can sit down and think out about 15 scenarios for something if it seems off to me, and to be honest, it's just a waste of time because it often turns into worrying for no reason!
Now I do believe that my intuition is very different from overanalyzing, so I will keep my instincts in check and leave the worries...
But of course when I feel like a "Why did he say this like this?" talk, that's what I have my girlfriends for, so don't judge me =)
"Worrying is a lot like a rocking chair, it gives you something to do, but it doesn't get you anywhere"-Van Wilder
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2 comments:
Love the quote at the end! I've been accused of over-analyzing as well, so I relate. Don't be too hard on yourself--we all do it! Let me know when you find a solution though!! And yes, girlfriends are perfect for sorting through that stuff! Love you!
Now I am very good at analyzing dreams. Your dream means several things:
1. (and this should shock you) It appears that you like drinks with Vodka…bloody marys, analyzers, mimosas, and that doesn’t even get into the martini glass issue.
a. Aside: I know that mimosas are typically just champagne and orange juice, but you would have spritzed that bad boy up with a sprig of vodka in your dream had you not chosen to go the analyzer route now wouldn’t you, you saucy thing?
2. You like ice chips…enough said.
3. Vanilla and vodka combination…well I can’t even go into what that means here. You’re practically beyond help on that one.
a.Aside: Don’t overanalyze the comment…it means you’re psycho.
4. I think you would normally worry about your friend because she’s trying to throw jalapeños into her analyzer. Don’t worry about that. It was probably just a dream tribute to your brother-in-law who once ate 167 jalapeño slices in a contest. He’s a cool dude, and probably gets dream tributes a lot.
Um…don’t beat yourself up about it, a lot of us overanalyze. It actually sounds like it would be a blast to hear you analyze things. The main thing you should consider is that most guys don’t put nearly as much thought into their comment as you might. In other words, they might have said something that could have meant something that was never meant without even knowing it. I’m glad I’ve cleared that up.
It’s actually very similar to a girl saying something that means something completely different than what she means, knowing that she doesn’t mean what the words would indicate, and believing that the words that came out of her mouth shouldn’t matter since clearly she believed something else. So…it’s similar, but opposite.
I love you, chica!
p.s. you did say guys could feel free to comment, you just didn’t know that you were really opening it up here.
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